Nine MonthsRoisin Hansen
Each womanʼs journey through pregnancy is unique to them. For some women it is part of their journey to experience inexplicable heartache whereas others are fortunate to have a seamless, almost effortless experience.
Mine has been somewhere in the middle. After a bit of a false start I feel like one of the fortunate ones to have experienced a relatively smooth pregnancy thus far. Very mild morning sickness for a limited time, not too many sleepless nights, a cooperative placenta that eventually moved into the right position and once I hung up my heels at the start of my maternity leave, the swelling in my feet seemed to magically abate!
In order to appreciate this positive side of pregnancy there were a couple of minor hiccups to contend with. Having decided to start a family at the age of 34 I was well aware of the challenges many women in their mid-thirties face when trying to conceive. Could we have started earlier? Definitely. On the flip side we were enjoying life tremendously, having no real urge to change our lifestyle!
It didnʼt take long to get pregnant once we decided to start trying however I was one of the ones to have a miscarriage the first time around. It happened around the 4 week mark which thankfully for me, meant no physical discomfort and although I knew there was a chance I was pregnant there hadnʼt been any confirmation. Despite being fully equipped with the knowledge that miscarriages are not uncommon and having mentally prepared myself for the possibility there was a high change it could happen to me, the emotional and hormonal effects hit me harder than anticipated. To top it all off the doctor discovered a cyst in one of my ovaries.
His recommendation was to carry on as normal and sure enough it wasnʼt long before I got pregnant again! I still remember those jitters in my stomach during each visit to the doctor, for the first few months, every time he would start the ultrasound and look for the tiny heart beat and the incredible sense of happiness mixed with relief after we passed the first trimester.
Admittedly it took a while before the “pregnancy is beautiful” feeling kicked in. For the first few months I was wondering what all the hype was about. Donʼt get me wrong; every visit to the doctor was the highlight of that week; every time I heard the babyʼs heartbeat was an absolute thrill. I knew that a miracle was happening inside of me but it wasnʼt until the baby bump popped out that I fully appreciated the beauty of pregnancy. My husband started looking at me with an expression of awe and wonder which for me re-iterated the magic of pregnancy.
In these final moments leading up to the birth we joke that he is going to miss this big belly!
THE MOST FUN PART ABOUT BEING PREGNANT
It has definitely been an adventure not only for my husband and I but half the fun has been experiencing the collective feeling of anticipation and excitement of our family and friends! This is the first grandchild for my family and thus excitement levels have reached fever pitch for the future lola and lolo (although my parents are yet to confirm how they would like to be addressed by their apo!). Even my brothers, normally calm and collected guys, are getting ready to be titos. The other aspect that Iʼve really enjoyed about pregnancy is connecting with my closest girlfriends who are now mothers on another level, feeling their support and genuine excitement throughout the entire experience.
THE MOST EMOTIONAL PART ABOUT BEING PREGNANT
So much emphasis and focus is put on the being growing inside of me that the realisation that the bond between my husband and I had deepened and strengthened in the process caught me by surprise. There was one particular moment, during my husbandʼs nightly ritual of playing a few songs on the guitar for our unborn child where I could see the love in his eyes and hear the emotion in his voice, when I realised the love and commitment we had for each other had strengthened as a result of the shared love we had for our little one. It had done so during the process of mental and emotional preparation for the responsibility of looking after this little person!
Already this baby has given so much happiness and excitement to our family that itʼs impossible to comprehend how much more there is to come.
Roisin gave birth to beautiful baby Connor on March 29, 2012.
April 1, 2012 by Glam-o-Mamas